Getting Back into the Game…Dating Tips for Older Men

As a romance coach to thousands of singles across the nation, Paul A. Falzone, CEO of the world’s largest dating service, The Right One and Together Dating, as well as, online dating service eLove.com said, "These men are seeking to date 25 year old supermodels. It’s just unrealistic."

One of the most important things for guys to remember is that they need to put their best foot forward. Falzone advises, "Take the blinders off. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. Do you need to make some improvements?"

He continued, "The biggest problem for older men is that they rarely see themselves in the same light as they appear to others. They may be overweight, sporting shaggy hair, chain smoke or have bad teeth and not think anything of it. To top it off, they may still view themselves as the high school football quarterback they may have once been and behave like teenagers as well. Then they pursue women who are 20 or more years younger. They really need to develop a sense of self-awareness."

Falzone has written the playbook to help older men get back into the game:

Age is a relative number, and you’re only as old as you feel. Don’t let your appearance go just because you’ve turned 40 or 50. Take care of business. Get that haircut; make an appointment with the dentist; lose the beer belly…Whatever it takes to look your best.

Treat yourself well. This doesn’t mean overindulge in food and wine; it means find a hobby or activity that you like, that is fun and will get you in shape. This is one of the keys to looking younger.

Lose the unrealistic expectations and standards. Older men should do some mental housekeeping and focus on who they are in the present time and behave appropriately.
They should look for women around their age, or at least within 10 years of their age. Nowadays, many women in their 50s look 35 to 40 years old.

Determine whether you want a trophy gal or someone with whom you can really spend quality time. Conversation will be much more lively (and last longer than two minutes) with someone your own age. Older women will be able to share the same experiences and will probably have a lot more in common.

It’s no secret that women adore older men in their 40s or 50s who are super handsome and successful. But what if you’re an average guy without a great investment portfolio? Maybe divorced and paying alimony? And, instead of that sports car or Mercedes, you’re driving an affordable family sedan?

Falzone adds, "Women enjoy dating successful men, but they are also realistic; they know it’s not everything. Older men should concentrate on presenting their best self and having realistic expectations if they want to get off the bench."

Catering to more than 300,000 members at over 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One, Together Dating and Elove.com are the largest bricks and mortar dating services as well as online hybrid in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.

Romantic Locations
The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Florida (Miami); Georgia (Atlanta); Kansas (Wichita and Overland Park); Illinois (Downers Grove, Rockford and Bloomington); New Jersey (Cherry Hill, Hackensack); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia, Pittsburgh and Monroeville); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas, Austin); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Brookfield).

North American locations and affiliates of Together are: California (Encino, Irvine, Los Angeles, Upland); Florida (Palm Beach, Vero Beach); Georgia (Savannah); Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Indianapolis, South Bend); Kentucky (Lexington, Louisville); Louisiana (New Orleans); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Minneapolis); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); New Jersey (Bridgewater, Clark, Colts Neck and Lawrenceville); Ohio (Cincinnati); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg); South Carolina (Greenville); South Dakota (Sioux Falls); Texas (San Antonio, Beaumont and Houston) and Virginia (Falls Church).

For more information about Together Dating and The Right One, please visit their websites at www.therightone.com, www.togetherdating.com, and www.elove.com or call
(800) 818-DATE (3283).

(Editor note: For interviews with the colorful and articulate Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, The Right One and Together Dating and the author of a recent book on the history of dating, please contact Steve Dubin, PR Works, at (781) 582-1061 or, by e-mail, at sdubin@prworkzone.com.)